How to Date With Herpes

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How to Date With Herpes

If you are diagnosed as having oral herpes or genital herpes, you might feel that your dating days are at an end. A feeling of loneliness sets in the person. However, in truth, this need not be so. One in five people have this STD and though there is no cure, you can control the symptoms and lead a normal life. The problem is that dates generally react negatively when you break the news of being infected with Herpes.

Do Not Tell Your Condition on the First Meeting

If you tell your date on the very first meeting, it seems to be too soon. Most dates will get repulsed immediately and will never again call you or respond to your calls. It makes sense to become a little more serious with a date before breaking the news. However, since herpes can affect the other partner, it is important to break the news before you have any sexual contact with your date. Waiting for some time, works out better, as you can establish a connection with the person and he or she might not reject you outright. Go out on a few dates and see whether you are compatible with them. If you are still attracted to the person, you can tell them about your condition.

Reduces the Risk of Transmission

One of the scariest aspects of dating with herpes is that you might infect the other person. There are ways to reduce this risk. If you have herpes, you can take help from suppressive therapy, like Acyclovir and Valtrex, which reduces the risk of transmission. It also reduces the number and the severity of outbreaks. It is also advisable to use condoms whenever you have sexual contact with your date, even in case of oral sex. Dental dams and condoms can make things safer for your date and in this way herpes will not spread from the genitals to the mouth or vice versa.

Join a Herpes Dating Site

If you are open about your condition and discuss the risks and concerns honestly with your date, there is a great possibility of having a happy dating and sexual life. One common option is to join dating sites that are devoted to those with herpes. This will remove all the guilt, the embarrassment and the doubts regarding your infection. It has worked well for several people.

Protect your Date from Getting Herpes

If your date is willing to continue the relationship, you must take precautions, such as medication and condoms. Avoid sexual contact during, before and immediately after an outbreak of sores. Tell your partner if you feel that an outbreak seems to be coming and avoid sex for the entire cycle. By following these measures, you can protect your date from getting herpes. There are many people who remain in long-term relationships with those having herpes and never get it.